Author: Jacques de Villiers

  • The Map No Longer Matches The Territory

    The Map No Longer Matches The Territory

    Some sales teams work incredibly hard.
    Early mornings. Late nights. Relentless activity.
    They hit the phones, they send the emails, they follow the scripts.

     

    And still… the results fall short.

     

    Not because they don’t care. Not because they’re lazy.
    But because they’re following a map that no longer matches the territory.

     

    The rules of selling were written for a world that no longer exists.
    A world where buyers had less information, fewer choices, and nowhere to hide.
    In that world, whoever shouted the loudest usually won.
    Scripts worked. Scarcity sold. Pressure closed.

     

    But that world is gone.

     

    Today, buyers are armed. They’re connected. They trust their peers more than your pitch deck.
    They scroll past loud messages, they ghost hard sellers, and they disappear at the first whiff of desperation.

     

    The game changed. But the playbook didn’t.

     

    Managers see the numbers slipping and do what they’ve always done: they push harder.
    More activity. More pressure. More of the same.

     

    But no amount of “more” can fix a paradigm mismatch.
    If the ladder is leaning against the wrong wall, climbing faster doesn’t help.

     

    I call it the Hard Sell Industrial Complex — a system built on KPIs, funnels, and scripts that once worked brilliantly… and now actively erode trust.
    It’s comfortable, because it’s familiar.
    It’s measurable, because it’s linear.
    And it’s wrong for the moment we’re in.

     

    The real opportunity isn’t to push harder inside this outdated system.
    It’s to build a new one.

     

    One that starts not with scripts, but with service.
    Not with chasing, but with earning.


    Not with predatory attention, but with receptive attention — the kind you get when you say something that matters, to people who want to hear it.

     

    This isn’t about being “softer.” It’s about being smarter.
    It’s about meeting buyers where they are, not where your CRM says they should be.
    It’s about shifting from hard selling to heart selling — where trust becomes the strategy, not the side effect.

     

    The companies that make this shift will sell more, faster, and with less friction.
    But more importantly, they’ll build something rare: a reputation buyers lean into, not run away from.

     

    The real opportunity isn’t to work harder inside a broken system — it’s to design a better game.

    So… what would happen if your team stopped chasing attention and started earning it?

  • Should you become a better writer than a speaker?

    Should you become a better writer than a speaker?

    [Substitute ‘speaker’ for your profession].

    This post could also have been titled: Is SEO Dead? (Maybe the SEO gurus can weigh in here).

    I don’t know about you, but I’m getting less and less enquiries off my website. Five years ago, I would get around four a month, now I’m lucky if I get one every two months.

    I relied totally on my SEO abilities to get my website seen, and it worked, until it didn’t. In my space (sales optimisation), the keyword ‘sales training’ gets around 120 searches a month, down from 400+ years ago. With more than 50 ‘sales trainers’ vying for a valuable clickthrough, there’s not much chance of most people getting business.

    Why are the searches less? I can’t say, but I can guess. AI! More people are typing their searches into ChatGPT and other AI tools, and not searching the web. I’m doing it, and I’m getting more accurate information almost instantly.

    I thought I’d type this into ChatGPT: Who is a great copywriter in South Africa? My professional speaking colleague and friend Tiffany Markman was the only one to come up.

    Why? Because she is a prolific and consistent content creator, and has been creating interesting and relevant content for years.

    So, should you be a better writer (and a more prolific one) than a speaker [your profession]? Damn straight… if you want to feature on AI, and attract more queries, that is.

    Go on, type in your question about your field into https://chatgpt.com/. If you’re not there, then you have work to do: Create content, and lots of it.

    🍰 ⋆ 🍧 🎀 𝒯𝒾𝒻𝒻𝒶𝓃𝓎 𝑀𝒶𝓇𝓀𝓂𝒶𝓃 𝓌𝒶𝓈 𝓃🌸𝓉 𝒽𝓊𝓇𝓉 𝒾𝓃 𝓉𝒽𝑒 𝓌𝓇𝒾𝓉𝒾𝓃𝑔 ☯𝒻 𝓉𝒽𝒾𝓈 𝒶𝓇𝓉𝒾𝒸𝓁𝑒. 🎀 🍧 ⋆ 🍰

    The image is an AI-generated pop art version of Tiffany Markman from one of her posts on LinkedIn.

    If you’re looking for sales training in South Africa, reach out to me. See, I’m putting ‘sales training’ in as a keyword to see if I can attract AI and search engines. Let’s see if it works.

  • Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself

    Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself

    “Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself” by Dr. Joe Dispenza examines the connections between neuroscience, quantum physics, and personal growth. This book explains how our thoughts influence our reality and offers practical strategies for personal change.

    I’m a big fan of Dr. Joe Dispenza’s work. Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself gave me some wonderful insights. I recommend it to my delegates who attend my sales training interventions.
    I used AI to generate this brief summary so that you can figure out if you want to read it too.

    Key Concepts and Principles

    1. The Relationship Between Thoughts and Reality

    Dr. Dispenza posits that our thoughts have a direct impact on our physical reality. He argues that:

    • Our repetitive thoughts and emotions create neural pathways in the brain.
    • These neural pathways influence our perception and behavior, creating a feedback loop.
    • By changing our thoughts, we can literally rewire our brains and, consequently, our reality.

    2. The Science Behind Changing Habits

    The author delves into the neuroscientific basis of habit formation and change:

    • Habits are formed through repetitive thoughts and behaviours that create strong neural connections.
    • Breaking habits requires disrupting these neural patterns and creating new ones.
    • The concept of neuroplasticity supports the idea that we can change our brains at any age.

    3. The Quantum You

    Dispenza introduces quantum physics principles to explain personal transformation:

    • At the quantum level, infinite possibilities exist simultaneously.
    • Our observations and intentions can shape the outcomes of quantum events.
    • By aligning our thoughts, emotions, and intentions, we can harness quantum possibilities to create positive changes in our lives.

    Practical Techniques for Personal Transformation

    Dr. Dispenza outlines several techniques for implementing change:

    1. Meditation: A cornerstone of his approach, used to:
    • Break the cycle of repetitive thoughts and emotions
    • Access the subconscious mind
    • Visualize and embody desired outcomes
    1. Mental Rehearsal: Vividly imagining desired outcomes to:
    • Create new neural pathways
    • Align thoughts and emotions with future goals
    1. Body-Part Method: A technique to:
    • Increase body awareness
    • Release stored emotions in different body parts
    1. Blessing of the Energy Centers: A practice to:
    • Balance and activate the body’s energy centres (chakras)
    • Promote overall well-being and alignment
    1. Creating a New Personality: A holistic approach involving:
    • Identifying limiting beliefs and behaviours
    • Consciously choosing new thoughts and emotions
    • Consistently practising new ways of being

    Notable Examples and Case Studies

    Dr. Dispenza reinforces his theories with several compelling examples:

    1. The Placebo Effect: He cites studies where patients experienced real physiological changes simply through belief, demonstrating the power of mind over matter.
    2. Personal Transformation Stories: The book includes accounts of individuals who have overcome chronic illnesses, addictions, and limiting beliefs using Dispenza’s methods.
    3. The Quantum Double-Slit Experiment: This famous physics experiment is used to illustrate how observation affects reality at the quantum level, drawing parallels to personal transformation.
    4. Brain Imaging Studies: Dispenza references neuroimaging studies showing how meditation and focused intention can alter brain activity and structure.

    In conclusion, “Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself” presents a powerful synthesis of cutting-edge science and ancient wisdom. Dr. Joe Dispenza offers readers a comprehensive roadmap for personal transformation, grounded in the understanding that our thoughts and intentions have the power to reshape our neural pathways and, ultimately, our lives. By mastering the techniques outlined in this book, individuals can break free from limiting habits and beliefs, tapping into their innate potential for growth and change.

    “Breaking the Habit of Being You” showcases the remarkable flexibility of the human brain and our untapped potential. It challenges readers to step beyond their comfort zones and embrace a new paradigm of self-directed evolution, where the power to change lies squarely in our own hands – or more accurately, in our own minds.

    If you’re interested in reading more about Dr. Joe Dispenza on this site, check out this article.

  • Bosses Gone Bad

    Bosses Gone Bad

    Jacques de Villiers – writing quest: Article 52/365

    There’s been a narrative going around for as long as I can remember that employees leave bosses not companies. 

    The blame is placed squarely on the leaders’ shoulders.

    A 2019 DDI study found that 57% of employees have quit because of their boss and 37% have thought about leaving because of their manager.

    “There are three kinds of lies: lies, damned lies, and statistics.”

    The late Benjamin Disraeli, former British Prime Minister

    I don’t think this is the whole story, and that one can’t point a finger at only leaders.

    The employee (the victim) and the company (perpetrator)  have to take some responsibility too. 

    You can’t blame everything on your leaders. 

    What the studies don’t tell you is the calibre of employees that were interviewed. Perhaps they weren’t performing and as is typical in human nature, they blamed something/one else for their shortcoming? It’s easy to say that it’s the manager’s fault. Perhaps they left before they were about to be fired for not doing their job? Perhaps they were the malevolent rotten apples that should never have been hired in the first place. 

    You can’t turn shit into steel. I’ve led teams in the military and corporate settings. I’ve seen employees behaving unethically. I recently wrote about employees who lie about being sick and take all their sick leave. It’s probably not politically correct to say, but any employee spending time on personal social media during work hours is technically stealing. Remember in the ‘old days’, it was the equivalent of playing solitaire on your computer. But, if we use this as a yardstick, then the lot of us are guilty.  

    Leaders often encounter employees who try to take as much as they can from the organisation without contributing much towards its goals. One can hardly expect a manager to develop a weak character into something of value.  Dealing with employees who lack motivation and a strong work ethic can be challenging, and downright demotivating.

    I challenge any leader reading this article who has had an employee that isn’t pulling his weight, and hasn’t thought, “F&*k this, I just want to fire his ass.”

    Is it possible for leaders to improve? Of course. From a communication and function role, this is easy.

    Is it possible for employees to improve? Of course. They can go from a rights-based mindset (taking as much as they can from the organisation that’s feeding them) to a duties-based mindset (giving more than they get).

    And, I don’t even think this is an issue of poor leadership or morally bankrupt employees. It’s a human issue.

    There are only two ways to deal in this world. We’re either here to get or to give. The more immature and selfish we are, the more we take. The more mature and selfless we are, the more we give. And, that’s really the crux of it, isn’t it? There are two camps: the takers and the givers.

    I disappear so that others can appear.

    Sufi Saying

    Also, it may not be a leadership issue, but rather a company culture issue. Most companies still view employees as resources to get a result (it’s taught at every business school). So they take as much as they can from the employee, leaving them burnt out. So, leaders are basically Oberleutnants following the Fuhrer’s orders (culture).

    Let’s take this from a human, metaphysical and spiritual angle. Why do we attract ‘bad’ bosses, ‘kak employees’ and ‘crap cultures’ to ourselves? It’s purely a function of our vibration and mindset. 

    1. It’s not you, it’s me. If you look at the Krebs Drama Triangle https://jo.my/aq58rv. Victims will always attract perpetrators (‘bad’ bosses). When I worked in corporations, every boss I had was wonderful. But that’s because I wear rose-tinted glasses and have a positive view of the world. The world just mirrors what you put out there.

    2. Welcome the ‘bad’ boss, he or she may be the best lesson you ever received. Petty Tyrants drive one to distraction. My first boss was a hardened journalist and treated me and my writing like I was a two-year-old with a crayon. He had me in tears more often than I cared for. But, he was a genius. I sucked it up and learned everything I could from him. He turned me into the writer I am today. Etsko Schuitema wrote a great piece on Petty Tyrants https://jo.my/eaqnd3.

    3. Hurt people hurt people. According to the Map of Consciousness https://jo.my/1tglvb, 85% of humanity has a  frequency under 200 hz (shame, guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, anger and pride). If both the boss and the employee are coming from this state, it’s not going to work out at all.

  • Constraint is the ultimate freedom

    Constraint is the ultimate freedom

    Jacques de Villiers – writing quest: Article 51/365

    You’ve probably heard the expression, ‘think outside the box’. That’s a bit of a stretch for most of us because we can’t even think inside the box, and when there’s no box, we can’t think at all. 

    Constraint has a negative connotation, implying limitation and restriction. There’s nothing we value more than freedom. We seek not to be fettered by customs, rules and laws.

    I play in the spiritual and metaphysical realm, where it is common to believe in concepts like “letting go,” “going with the flow,” “everything happens for a reason,” “submitting and surrendering,” “let go, let God” “meditating,” “praying,” and “manifesting.”

    There’s a sense of the unfettered and of freedom.

    We admire those that can colour outside the lines, think outside the box and break with convention. However, even the most unconventional are constrained by immutable laws, without which even they couldn’t function. 

    Constraints provide us with a clear sense of direction. And, that direction can lead us to the freedom we so value.

    Even the most enlightened, past and present, are constrained and work to a set of rules. Prayer has rules, meditation has rules and sitting like a guru on the mountaintop holding the light for the world has rules. 

    When I have the freedom to draw anything on a blank canvas, I find it difficult because there are too many options. I become paralysed because I don’t know in which direction to go. 

    If you’ve ever gone to a restaurant where the menu has hundreds of choices, you’ll know what I mean. It takes much longer to make a choice. But when you go to a restaurant that has five items on the menu, it takes a lot quicker to make a choice, doesn’t it?

    Sometimes the world seems rudderless, chaotic and broken. But if we look carefully, we’ll see that there’s an unfathomable intelligence and divine direction in literally everything that happens. 

    And, if you treat life as a game, which it is, then knowing the rules can help you win the game. 

    Constraints are not the enemy of freedom. Freedom is the enemy of freedom.

    If you don’t believe me, let’s ask the moon to untether itself from our earth. We’d become unmoored and free of the constraint, and that would be downright disastrous.

    There’s no freedom without form. And, there’s no form without constraints.

  • Find Something To Fail At

    Find Something To Fail At

    Jacques de Villiers – writing quest: Article 50/365

    Imagine that you’re a contender in a game called life and that the world is your gymnasium. We’ve been taught that our job is to play the game to win.

    I don’t know about you, but I haven’t been winning at business, love and life a lot lately. And winning is a Sisyphean endeavour for most of us. Because most of us perceive ourselves to be empty and need to be filled. When we start from emptiness instead of gratitude, nothing we do or have will ever feel like enough.

    “No amount of zeros at the end of your pay cheque can fill that hole in your chest called insecurity.”

    Sheikh Ebrahim Schuitema

    I changed my view of winning at the game about 10 years ago. This shift in perception helped me contend in the game differently. It has been helpful to me, and it may be helpful to you.

    It started with a story that Sheikh Ebrahim Schuitema told about walking up a mountain. “You can describe a person walking in two ways.  You can either say he’s walking to get to the top of the mountain.  Or you can say the top of the mountain is his means to have a good walk. 

    If there wasn’t a good challenge, he wouldn’t have a good walk.  And the real product of a good walk isn’t that the top of the mountain gets achieved. The real product is that the walker becomes stronger and better at walking.” 

    So, what’s the real point of any endeavour, be it starting a business, getting married or creating art? For me the point is not winning but transformation.

    The only point of a gymnasium is the athlete, the one who is playing. One doesn’t do things to achieve things, one does them to do them well. It’s a shift from outcome to process.

    Because it’s only in the blood and guts of the process that we truly transform. If everything were easy and everything we touched turned to gold, there’d be no transformation, only hedonism.

    I’d argue that all of us fail more than we win. Shattered marriages, failed friendships, broken children, failed businesses and unmet expectations are chronicles of our defeats. If we had to base the success of our lives on our wins, we’d all be in a very sad place indeed.

    Should we say, what’s the point of playing the game and contending if I’m going to lose more than I win?

    Of course not. 

    The purpose of any endeavour is not the endeavour. The purpose of any endeavour is to turn us into more conscious, eloquent and awesome human beings. To bring us to the truth of who we are; masterpieces creating master-works.

    Why don’t you and I go find another endeavour to fail at?  

    It’s only a game, after all. 

    And, it’s a game that’s stacked in our favour.

  • How to Start A Cult

    How to Start A Cult

    Jacques de Villiers – writing quest: Article 49/365

    Millions of people believe that Charles Darwin coined the phrase, “survival of the fittest.” It was actually philosopher Herbet Spencer who coined it five years after reading Darwin’s Origin of Species.

    What Darwin actually said was, “It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.”

    So here we have two versions of the same concept, one based on truth and the other based on a falsehood.

    Stephen Covey said, “If the ladder is not leaning against the right wall, every step we take just gets us to the wrong place faster.”

    Here’s the thing: many, if not all of us, base our entire value system on a false premise and spend our lives defending it.

    If you agree with ‘survival of the fittest’, you’ll see life as a competition and try to keep as many resources for yourself as possible.

    Someone like me might come along and take the ‘adaptable to change’ philosophy and add my own spin to it. Let’s say, “Those that are most adaptable to change and co-operate with one another survive.”

    That’s not what Darwin said. But that’s my spin: co-operation. I go out and sell that, and if enough people buy into it, I’ve started a movement. Let’s call it the Co-operation Cult. But, it’s based on a false premise.

    Look at the world today, it’s full of war (we are right). Every act of violence is based on the false premise that it is justifiable to take a life, making murderers of all who buy into that world-view. It looks like Herbert Spencer has won the day with his ‘survival of the fittest’ statement.

    The trick is not to take a sentence in isolation and turn that into one’s world-view. In a sound bite world, it’s easy to do that, isn’t it, and swear it’s gospel?

    Talking about gospel. Here are two contradictory versions from the same author.

    Matthew 19:24: “I’ll say it again-it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the Kingdom of God!”

    Matthew 25:29: “For to everyone who has, more will be given, and he will have abundance; but from him who does not have, even what he has will be taken away.”

    This has split the Christian movement into two distinct camps. One that believes that poverty, suffering and charity are the way to redemption.

    And, the other (charismatic movement) preaches prosperity theology where financial blessings are always the will of God.

    Who’s right? Confusing, isn’t it?

    If I were mischievous, I’d say that all religions belong to the Cult of Confusion. They’re there to keep us on the back foot, playing on our shame, apathy, guilt, grief, pride and then throwing in a sprinkle of hope to keep us going just a little longer (and, to stop us from killing ourselves out of hopelessness). Someone has to keep the church, synagogue and mosque lights on, after all.

    Good grief, I’m cynical this morning.

    What’s the trick? Don’t take anything in isolation (a sentence) and turn it into an unwavering belief. Look at the whole picture. Use your intellect and become more discerning about what you believe. Be courageous and interrogate your beliefs (stories that have been told to you by people that are more confused than you). And, if they no longer serve you, drop them.

    As always, I go to my man-crush, Carlos Castaneda: “Anything is one of a million paths. Therefore, you must always keep in mind that a path is only a path; if you feel you should not follow it, you must not stay with it under any conditions. Only then will you know that any path is only a path and there is no affront, to oneself or to others, in dropping it if that is what your heart tells you to do.” 

    I belong to the Cult of Castaneda. And, for as long as I can remember, I believed that he really did spend time with a Yaqui shaman called Don Juan. By all accounts, this is a falsehood, and he used the character of Don Juan to spread his philosophy. 

    There’s a piece of me that believes that he did actually spend time in Sonora, Mexico with the shaman. 

    Like there’s a piece of me that believes in Ayn Rand’s objectivism philosophy where man is a heroic being, with his own happiness as the moral purpose of his life, with productive achievement as his noblest activity, and reason as his only absolute. 

    Like there’s a piece of me that believes that there’s an unfathomable consciousness that allows you and me to play here for a brief time.

    Like there’s a piece of me that believes that the Annunaki are real and that the Pleides (الثريا) are the star seed beings watching over us.

    I clearly belong to the Cult of Confusion. All I know is that reality is not what it seems and that we can’t deal in absolutes, because there are none. If anything, at least I could probably hold an interesting conversation.

    But one thing I’ll go to the grave believing is that gratitude and love are all we need. Now that’s a cult I can get behind.

    Oh, and be circumspect of everything I have said in this text. I am, after all, the product of millions of falsehoods that I’ve chosen to believe. Just believe yourself. Your heart will tell you what’s right.

  • The Point Of It All

    The Point Of It All

    Jacques de Villiers – writing quest: Article 48/365

    I saw Joey Evans’s presentation “From Para to Dakar” at The Tryst in Woodmead on Tuesday night.

    It’s a powerful story about how a terrible motorcycle accident left him a paraplegic with no chance of walking again. Through grit, belief, an unbelievable ability to endure pain and the support of his family, he defied all odds and walked. And, then he went on a quest to race and finish the Dakar on a motorcycle.

    The audience was riveted by his compelling story of overcoming overwhelming odds to triumph over adversity. 

    And, his message of: “You didn’t come this far to only come this far” landed. Inspirational discourses like this give the audience hope that they can overcome their own demons, strife and setbacks and triumph. That’s normally the goal, and “From Para to Dakar” certainly delivered on it.

    But, then from left field he landed what I thought was the essence of it all. He showed a video of his family greeting him at the airport. Their love and support carried him through his years of struggle to his moment of triumph. There wasn’t a dry eye in the house. Just thinking about it now, I’m tearing up. The audience got it. Whilst the trials, tribulations and triumphs make for a compelling story, they’re just the sideshow. 

    The essence of everything we do is love. And, love is the point of it all. And, a family’s love is the most precious of all. 

    Think about your own life: isn’t this what drives you; love and family? Both love and family provide the support and purpose that underpin many of our most cherished experiences.

    I have a notion that true success is measured not by our accomplishments or possessions, but by the number of loved ones by our side at the end, when we’re called home again.

    Joey’s keynote reminded me again how important love and family is. For me, it’s the only worthwhile pursuit.  

  • Spiritual Lessons From Beggars

    Spiritual Lessons From Beggars

    Jacques de Villiers – writing quest: Article 47/365

    I’m that guy. When I see that the robot is red I slow down so that I can catch it as it turns green. All in the effort to avoid the beggar. And, if I am confronted by the beggar (damn you red robot), I do that verkakte, patronising shrug and mouth, “Sorry, no money.”

    Don’t get me started on shopping centre car guards. I’ve been known to leopard-crawl to my car to avoid being seen by one. I close my car door quietly and slink low into my driver’s seat. God forbid I alert the Velociraptor, and he chases me down.

    Now I know that you’re not as crass, cruel and cowardly as me. You’re probably kind, courteous and generous. This article’s not for you.

    My white guilt and privilege smacks me around the head. I feel sorry and sympathetic. I’m pissed off at a country that has allowed this travesty to happen for reasons we are all aware of. But, mostly, I’m irritated at the beggar/car guard for making me feel shit. 

    I don’t feel shit any more after coming across a story by Carlos Castaneda. He was sitting with his spiritual teacher, the Yaqui shaman, Don Juan Matus at a restaurant in Mexico. They watched as beggars took scraps off the table after the patrons left. Don Juan asks Castaneda if he felt sorry for the beggars. Castaneda affirmed. Don Juan then asked him if he felt superior to them. Sheepishly, he affirmed this too. Then Don Juan asks him, “What makes you think that they haven’t found the path before you?”

    Damn right. When it comes to matters of the soul, it doesn’t matter if you’re a CEO or a street sweeper. We’re held to account equally. All that matters is how you conducted yourself here.

    Have you ever asked, “Where are you God?” The answer will probably be, “I am here begging in front of you. I’m helping you reverse your car out of the parking space.” So, basically, he’s everywhere. This effectively means we should always be in a state of awe and gratitude every second of the day. 

    And, if like me, you believe that we signed a soul contract of how we are going to show up in this world, then the beggar is where he is supposed to be. I appreciate being given a chance to show compassion and empathy, and to feel grateful that he is also participating in this game. 

    He shows me my frailty. My vanity. My shame. My guilt. My anger. My kindness. My compassion. My love. He’s just doing his job. He’s allowing me to look at things that trigger me negatively so that I can let go of them. And, he’s allowing me to be generous and kind. And, most of all, he’s allowing me to see God in all his glory.

    So, nowadays, when I don’t have money to give (or even if I do), I look at the beggar and think, “Wow my friend, you’ve chosen a hard path to play your part. It’s not a path I would have liked to sign up for. Thank you for giving me an opportunity to show you compassion and love. “I wish you abundance, today.”

    “Thank you, God, for showing yourself at the robot today.”

    We are all here for a purpose. Let’s honour that and play our role out to the best of our ability.

  • Pilfering Perfection

    Pilfering Perfection

    Jacques de Villiers – writing quest: Article 46/365

    Me: I’m imperfect, fractured and a failure. 

    God: Where’d you hear that?

    Me: I just know. When I go on Facebook I see the perfect lives of everyone.

    God: Aren’t you just cute? They think the same about your life. May I tell you a story?

    Me: You’re God. I definitely want to hear a story from you.

    God: When I created your original father and mother, I made them in my image; perfect. I also gave them a gift I’ve bestowed on no other, not even my favourite angels. Choice!

    I gave them only one instruction. “Don’t eat the fruit from the tree of knowledge.” I’d also blessed them with curiosity. They couldn’t help themselves. They ate the fruit. The serpent in the tree whispered, “You’re naked and exposed. You’re ugly. You’re stupid. You’re arrogant and prideful. You don’t deserve to be in paradise.” They were ashamed and tried to cover up their nakedness.

    You see, the tree is where I hid my dark side, my Yin. My only wish was for them to live in the light of their perfection, their Yang. Yes, although I am God, my omnipotence did not come easily. I wrestled with things worse than you will ever know before time ever existed so that you can play here.

    You were born perfect. That is the truth. You were born for a perfect purpose. That is the truth. We signed that contract when you were born. You agreed to do my work until I bring you home again.

    Me: So why do I feel so inadequate, imperfect and lost?

    God: The serpent pilfered perfection by telling a story to the original mother and father. Because he was devious and persuasive, he convinced them that they weren’t enough. That they were imperfect. As you grew up, your own mother, father, uncles, aunties, friends, teachers and preachers entrenched that story by telling you how to do this and how to do that. They taught you what was appropriate to their view of the world. As they were taught by those that came before them. Soon you believed them, that you weren’t enough. That you were imperfect.

    Me: Oh my goodness, you’re right. How do I fix it?

    God: By understanding that there is only truth and falsehood. I am the truth. That means that you are full and perfect. You are not empty and need to search for perfection. You are already perfection.

    The falsehoods are the stories you believe that were told to you, about you. When you experience shame, guilt, apathy, grief, and other negative emotions caused by the idea of imperfection, remember that it’s just a story. Remember, I gave you choice.  Just choose to drop the story, it’s that simple. Those that gave you the story, that’s their view of the world, it doesn’t have to be yours. Don’t let their stories shackle you in shame. 

    You are my most precious creation. You are the point of this entire exercise. You are my sun. And, like the sun, you are always there, omnipresent, and always perfect. The stories you are told are a dark cloud that’s hiding your light. Come my son, drop the story and reveal your sun. I love you.