January 15, 2015

New Year’s Blues


I’ll bet you, like me, received many good wishes for 2015.

Of course, this happens every year, doesn’t it? We’re told to set goals, make new year’s resolutions and kick-start our lives.

This is going to be your year, isn’t it?

But, if you’re like me, you might have the post-New Year party blues because you too realise that with all your good intentions of turning over a new leaf and making 2015 the year where you’re going to make a difference, just isn’t going to happen.

It didn’t happen last year, nor the year before that nor 10 years prior.

For me at least.

I still haven’t become this super human who was going to dent the universe (even though I had every intention of doing so).

My quest to become a better human in 2015 faltered around January 3.

I realised that my plans for better relationships with my family, improving my financial situation, getting that perfect body, contributing more to my community, learning more and being more were … well were just words, just good intentions.

I think the challenge for me is that I live in the future and not in the moment. Because if you really think about it, January 1, 2015 is just another day, another moment in time in our journey. Like every other day, it is the only day we have a chance of making a difference in our lives and in the lives of those we love.

And, just to put the cat amongst the pigeons, new year’s day is not the same for everyone. Most countries follow the Gregorian calendar, but some still follow the Julian calendar which put’s ‘New Year’ on 14 January. And, the Pagans celebrate 1 November as the beginning of the new year. The Chinese New Year, also known as the Lunar New Year, occurs every year on the new moon of the first lunar month (Wikipedia).

So, there’s no definitive New Year’s day. And, maybe New Year’s day should just seen as a metaphor.

So, perhaps we should see every day as a new day … a day to make a difference.

Perhaps we should focus more on being the best human we can be on every day that is gifted to us rather than being so future-focused.

Perhaps if we are the best mommy/daddy that we can be on this day, the best employee that we can be on this day and the best leader we can be on this day (every day) we will see a shift happen in our lives.

I believe if we do this, the future will sort itself out. The ‘one day I will be …’ will become ‘today’, the ‘I wish I could …’ will become ‘I did it’ and our dreams for our future will become our reality today.

5 Comments on “New Year’s Blues

kirsten long
January 15, 2015 at 5:05 pm

I absolutely agree Jacques. This year my intention is to get into a flow state when I am working on important tasks, like writing (not admin). It is also about being the best I can be!

Hope 2015 is an awesome one for you!

Jacques de Villiers
January 17, 2015 at 12:03 pm

Hi Kirsten, I hope you have a great 2015. I love the concept of a flow state. But the only way I can get into flow is have disciplined habits every day (and then my muse comes when I write). Read Steven Pressfield’s War of Art. It will help you more with flow than most.

January 21, 2015 at 12:39 pm

Having set up a list of ambitious resolutions for myself (which I’m usually loath to do), I’m appreciative of the reminder to live life daily, not annually.

Funny… I came onto your site to find the books that you recommend. I couldn’t find that particular page, but here you are, in the comment section, recommending Art of War. (Which I am checking out, and probably going to buy on Kalahari right this minute.

Have a great DAY!

Jacques de Villiers
March 12, 2015 at 8:34 am

I’m glad you’re going to get the War of Art by Pressfield. His work is thought-provoking. It is all about taking responsibility and not giving your power away to others.

March 12, 2015 at 8:39 am

Bought it 🙂
Have yet to read it 🙁

“Tsundoku, which literally means reading pile, is written in Japanese as 積ん読. Tsunde oku means to let something pile up”


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