Is it possible not to judge

By Kirsten Long The answer is NO. It is impossible not to judge. We do it unconsciously all day every day. The process is instantaneous and usually unconscious. We are not even aware that we are judging. Let’s look at how this happens: An event occurs (someone does or says something) We compare the event to our standards for how the world is supposed to be. We arrive at a positive or a negative assessment […]

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You, the Chosen

My daughter, Rebecca, was around three or four years old – I’m hazy on the timing, but I’m crystal clear on the story I’m about to relate to you. It’s indelibly inked into my psyche. Rebecca reached out her hands to Simoné and I and said, “Mommy, daddy, I want to tell you something.” She led us to a couch and indicated that we should sit. She stood facing us. As I looked up into […]

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3 Warning Signs That You Are In Denial

Denial - Kirsten Long

“Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.” Stephen R. Covey Almost Too Late The first time I saw her, she cried for almost the whole hour. She was a successful woman, going places in the Financial Sector. She worked 12 – 14 hours a day and thrived on the stresses of her environment. She thought she had it all until she came home […]

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Why Defending Yourself Destroys Relationships

Defending yourself

Pam was feeling upset. She and Craig just had an argument. In fact, she was also feeling confused. She thought she was doing the right thing. He obviously didn’t. They’d been at a lunch with friends earlier. She was telling everyone how amazing Craig was – he’d just got a promotion, he was doing so well, with a HUGE increase on top of it all. When they got home, he complained angrily, “I really hate […]

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