Self-help books try to help you succeed at pursuing goals. But there is something they leave out.
What you typically see in a person who is here to take is that he/she will tolerate licentiousness because acting appropriately is given relatively little significance.
One of the surprising indicators I look for is how often individuals raise the issue of their personal rights when interacting with others.
Being a good citizen means being a contributor, a person who contributes to the collective, this means acting with the intent to give.